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RELATED MEMORY LOSS PROBLEMS
Volume
1: 31
"I
saw the doctor today about my loss of memory."
"What
did he do?"
"Made
me pay him in advance."
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The Age-Related Memory Losses
The
following humorous description that fits many age-
associated
memory problems was sent to me this week
via
John Adams, a dear friend of my Aunt Bernie's.
And
though this anecdote is not a scientific piece,
it
certainly is a valid expression of the progressive
changes
people experience as they age, related to
their
memory.
Typically,
when you visit your doctor, the symptoms
of
this story will be labeled for you in any of the
following
three ways:
1-
Age Associated Memory Impairment (AAMI)
2-
Age-Related Cognitive Decline (ARCD) or
3-
Mild Cognitive Impairment(MCI).
Just
realize, there is a great deal one can do to avoid
an
ongoing experience like the one you will read about
here.
So
let's talk about the road to freedom from this
dilemma.
I will join you again at the end of this
thoroughly
enjoyable sketch . . .
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Humorous Anecdote: Our Future Ailment
Do
you know what A. A. A. D. D is? Age-Activated
Attention
Deficit
Disorder. This is how it manifests:
I
decide to water my garden.
As
I turn on the hose in the driveway, I look over at my car
and
decide my car needs washing.
As
I start toward the garage, I notice that there is mail on
the
porch table that I brought up from the mail box earlier.
I
decide to go through the mail before I wash the car.
I
lay my car keys down on the table, put the junk mail in the
garbage
can under the table, and notice that the can is full.
So,
I decide to put the bills back on the table and take out
the
garbage first.
But
then I think, since I'm going to be near the mailbox when
I
take out
the garbage anyway, I may as well pay the bills
first.
I take my check
book off the table, and see that there is only
one check left.
My extra
checks are in my desk in the study, so I go inside the
house to my desk
where I find the can of Coke that I had been
drinking.
I'm going to look
for my checks, but first I need to push the
Coke aside so that I don't
accidentally knock it over. I see
that the Coke is getting warm, and I
decide I should put it
in
the refrigerator to keep it cold.
As
I head toward the kitchen with the Coke a vase of flowers
on
the counter catches my eye--they need to be watered.
I
set the Coke down on the counter, and I discover my reading
glasses
that I've been searching for all morning.
I
decide I better put them back on my desk, but first I'm
going
to water the flowers.
I
set the glasses back down on the counter, fill a container
with
water and suddenly I spot the TV remote. Someone left
it
on the kitchen table.
I
realize that tonight when we go to watch TV, I will be
looking
for the remote, but I won't remember that it's on the
kitchen
table, so I decide to put it back in the den where it
belongs,
but first I'll water the flowers.
I
pour some water in the flowers, but quite a bit of it spills
on
the floor.
So,
I set the remote back down on the table, get some towels
and
wipe up the spill.
Then
I head down the hall trying to remember what I was
Planning
to do.
At
the end of the day:
.
. . the car isn't washed,
.
. . the bills aren't paid,
.
. . there is a warm can of Coke sitting on the counter,
.
. . the flowers don't have enough water,
.
. . there is still only one check in my check book,
.
. . I can't find the remote,
.
. . I can't find my glasses,
.
. . and I don't remember what I did with the car keys.
Then
when I try to figure out why nothing got done today, I'm
really
baffled because I know I was busy all day long, and I'm
really
tired.
I
realize this is a serious problem, and I'll try to get some
help
for it, but first I'll check my e-mail.
Do
me a favor, will you? Forward this message to everyone you
know,
because I don't remember to whom it has been sent.
Don't
laugh -- if this isn't you yet, your day is coming!
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Familiar Territory? Available--The Possible Solutions
What
a great thread! Though humorous, this is a dilemma
that
more and more people are experiencing.
Can
I offer some possible helpful suggestions that have
worked
for other people???
I
am thoroughly amazed at how well a memory loss such
as the one
depicted responds to great vitamins, organic
foods if possible,
vegetables, fruits, fish, omega oils,
antioxidants, many amino-acids,
minerals, and clean water.
It's because B-12 is
such an important Vitamin, but so difficult to
absorb.
And
by the way, if you skip out on Magnesium many of your
needed
Amino-Acids and your Calcium won't be absorbed either.
Remember
this. You must take PREMEMLO with
Phosphatidylserene
(100-300 mg) and Phosphatidylcholine
(500
mg).
And always
take Omegas (up to 1000 mg
per day), 100% Vitamin B
Complex, and
a Multi-Vitamin
every
day.
If
you can, take 3 tablespoons of wheat grass daily also to
increase
alkalinity, which is very helpful to memory. That
is
why all leafy green veggies and especially spinach,
(which
also has a naturally occurring caffeine), help the
memory.
Don't
misunderstand. I am not telling you drinking coffee all
day
long helps memory, because too much of it only increases
insulin
which is hard on the brain.
However,
the amount of naturally occurring caffeine in spinach
or
in the Get Go N Plus from Biometics is equal to about 1 cup
of
coffee, but it is natural to high performing B Vitamin
foods.
You
can get any of the other items mentioned here (except
Biometics)
at a health food store or order your Omegas, PS and
PC
from us.
Just
E-mail me with questions about how to order if you like.
The
Products Page at http://www.TheMemoryDoc.com offers PS/PC &
Omegas.
We
will call you back if you need help to place orders!
So
leave a message toll free at 1-877-490-3538 if you
have
any difficulties or questions.
But
please don't think you can get the needed vitamins
by
eating a few eggs and taking a Multi-Vitamin from your
grocer!
However,
your diet of leafy greens, green tea, antioxidant
berries,
fish, eggs, almonds, avocadoes, tomatoes, olive
oil,
and even red wine on occasion and plenty of water
always
remains important.
Finally,
get some exercise and keep using your brain in
daily
activities of your choosing--reading, writing,
journaling,
memorizing, studying, and/or playing word
games.
Thanks
for reading and thank you, John Adams and Aunt
Bernie,
for your contribution this week. Please let me
know
if there is another author to reference besides--
'Anonymous'
for that great tale on the future ailment--
AAADD
- Age-Activated Attention Deficit Disorder.
Best
regards to each of you. Have a wonderful week.
Warmly,
Dr.
Jill
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The
Memory Doc by Jill Joyce, PhD
Volume
1: 30
April 5, 2005
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Today's Simple Memory Quote: "For such a time as this"
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Russian Men Fear Their Doctors! Let’s Not Do Likewise
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Not Enough Time To Heal: My Father-In-Law's Death After Surgery
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Hope in Serious "Global" Memory Loss Cases
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Why I Wrote "Don't Forget: What Drug & Insurance Co.'s
Don't Want You To Know About Memory Loss" or "Help!"
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The Right to Live Issue for Serious Memory Loss, etc.
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Joni Eareckson Tada's Spinal Cord Injury
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Florida Society of Neurology--Neurologists Want More Therapy
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Russian Men Fear Their Doctors! Let’s Not Do Likewise
Dear
Friends,
In
the years 1989-1996, I was graced with the good fortune
of
helping my now ex-husband bring Russian airplanes into
the
US at the beginning of a period known as "perestroika"
and
"glasnost."
The
hot little sport aerobatic airplane with the coveted
guttural
engine and fantastic vertical penetration is
called
the "Sukhoi."
The
difference in doing business with Russians was that
they
never came alone one CEO at a time. No--we hosted
33
Russians all at once!
The
group included pilots who helped cargo the planes
over,
mechanics, engineers, and even the original designer.
The
planes had been designed using Russian aerospace
technology
and American pilots wanted this airplane
--badly.
Hanging
out with these Russians always led to some
interesting
events.
One
I recall was when a Russian mechanic wanted to
try
out the motorcycle of one of our employees, a
female
pilot.
Though
he knew Russian equipment, he knew nothing of
our
motorcycles and due to the language barrier between
himself
and the female pilot, he managed to slam the
bike
into a wall.
A
few days later, when I saw he was in pain, I asked
my
husband if he noticed that Evgeny was limping?
We
asked Evgeny if he was okay, but he seemed very
reluctant
to discuss his limp with us at all.
Finally
we were able to find out by talking to others
about
his motorcycle mishap.
We
went to Evgeny and offered to take him to the hospital.
He
said "Oh no, no doctors!"
Clearly,
Evgeny was afraid to go to doctors in his own
country
and did not realize he would get some relief if
he
allowed us to take him in our country.
The
next odd thing that happened was the day the chief
designer
for the aircraft complained that he had a
toothache.
We offered to take him to the dentist.
He
disappeared for a few moments in the back of our
shop
at the airport. Then he reappeared holding the
tooth
up clamped in a pair of pliers and proudly smiled
as
he displayed it for us!
He
had managed to pull the tooth out all by himself
with
the pliers rather than to be taken to any dentist!
These
Russian men were made to be very afraid of their
health
care system. It did not represent a place to go
for
healing.
Both
men let us know beyond a shadow of a doubt that
the
idea of going to any doctors anywhere was
unacceptable.
Please--I
hope we never become victims of such thinking
in
the USA, where our doctors have been such wonderful
healers--but
I am afraid we are on the doorstep.
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The BBC and A Father's Death After Surgery
As
I reviewed the BBC news last week and learned a
little
of Europe's lack of sympathy over our handling of
one
woman's brain-injury, I once again realized all the
forces
operating which made me want to offer people
personal
help about the brain and write a book.
It
was 'for such a time as this' that "Don't Forget: What
Drug
and Insurance Co.'s Don't Want You To Know About
Memory
Loss" was born.
And
though I realize we have great science to help
with
brain ailments, common folks must learn more
about
the difficult topic to protect their loved
ones
and have intelligent communication with their
doctors.
This
is especially true because the interests of
insurance
and drug companies are pushing any scientific
agenda
more and more out of the realm of practical
do-ability.
Confusing
problems of memory loss and brain ailments
are
confronting people everywhere.
Consider--in
my own family, in 1996--my own father-
in-law.
He was given only 5 weeks to heal from triple
by-pass
surgery before the insurance company insisted
medical
treatment be pulled and he died.
This
occurred after one doctor began to insist my father-
in-law
had a stroke. However, he could not conduct tests
to
prove his theory. Still, he would not wait until my
father-in-law
was well enough to be certain of the stroke
diagnosis.
Obviously,
even the presence of a stroke should not
determine such a
drastic measure anyway.
When his doctor insisted on holding back the
needed dialysis
treatments
and used his living will as justification, he
convinced
everyone in the family (except me) that there
was already
nothing more that could be done.
Without
any tests, this doctor began calling his movements
"reflexes"
even though they corresponded properly with our
interactions
with him.
This
doctor also spoke of him as though he was already
dead--right in
front of him--where my father-in-law might
have grasped what was
being said. Not wise, kind, or helpful!
You see, after years of working
with cases like my father-
in-law's, I saw a man lying there who needed
a doctor who
was not under such mandated time pressure--who could
give
him
time to heal a bit more.
However,
our family is not the only one with tragic
traumatic end-of-life
experiences these days.
But I can point to that singular event as being
very
significant
in tearing our family apart.
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There is Hope in "Global" Memory Loss Cases
In
therapy rooms for 20 years, I saw lots of severe cases
take longer
than 5 weeks to become responsive after strokes
and
other serious conditions like surgery or head trauma.
I
spoke out in staff meetings for many of them if I saw
bodily
responses, allowing many of them to eventually
go
home, and kept many of them from going into nursing
homes
after receiving more therapy.
Since
I hate using the word "vegetable," let me give
you
the correct medical term health professionals are
supposed
to use in discussions of brain-injured people.
We
normally prefer to speak of a "global" state of
non-responsiveness
rather than to just call them
"vegetables."
With
that said, many people, who look "global," do get
well
enough to function, communicate, and go home again
in
a short period of time.
Other
people may look and act terrific at first, but then
often
do not get well.
Go
figure! There is often no visible rhyme or reason as to
why
one person improves and another does not other than
therapy
and family involvement.
Needless
to say, the ones who have the chance to improve
will
often be offered at least 3-6 months of therapy before
their
future progress or lack of it can usually be
properly
ascertained.
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"Don't Forget: What Drug & Insurance Co.'s Don't Want You
To Know About Memory Loss" or "Help!"
One
reason my book, "Don't Forget" was written was because
I
witnessed this surprising healing process on a regular basis.
And
in research interviews--the families told me about
their
major problems with health care for memory loss.
My
interview subjects, (families with a member with memory
loss),
seemed almost beside themselves to receive more
information
and education about memory loss problems.
The
common request in the vernacular was "Help!"
Just
prior to the 90's, Speech/Language Pathologists(SLP-CCC)
were
doing a lot of successful brain and cognitive recovery
work--much
more than they are able to do today.
However,
the needs are much greater now.
The
period of time for such therapy has been so greatly
reduced
by insurance carriers that it significantly impedes
the
possibility of healing to acceptable levels--where
people
can return to whatever their station in life was--
as
people often used to do.
That
is why families ought to understand some of these basic
therapy
techniques and offer re-training for at least 6 months
through
a therapist to ascertain the status of the disorder.
However,
if no therapy is available, there are many things
families
and friends could do for people with memory loss
or
learning problems with the assistance of a book like
mine
and just occasional consultations from a speech/language
therapist
(SLP-CCC) and visits to their neurologist.
Now,
more than ever, the family's personal touch is
necessary.
The world we are living in is not going in a
therapeutic
direction when there is brain injury, memory
loss,
or weakness of mental capacities.
If
anything the problems involved in stimulating these
people
to achieve improvements are getting much worse.
Certainly,
the events and happenings all around us in
recent
weeks are already having other unintended affects
and
reverberations.
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To
read this article in its entirety click here:
http://www.joniandfriends.org/apcm/APCMviewer.asp?a=128&z=4
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Florida Society of Neurology--Neurologists Want More Therapy
The
neurologists I talked with last December at the Memory
Loss
convention put on by the Florida Society of Neurology
admitted:
Cognitive therapies are terribly lacking after
memory
loss disorders and other disabling brain ailments
occur.
Many
of the doctors there discussed with me this very real
need
admitting that they constantly concur on this lack of
therapy
amongst themselves for their patients with memory
loss
and brain disorders.
Just
because insurance is not paying for therapy right now,
does
not mean it doesn't work.
Nor
does it mean those who need this therapy are not still
out
there somewhere. They are everywhere!
I
hope that if you know one of them you will not succumb
to
the belief being purported by the present mentality
that
there is no possibility of healing for them.
It
simply isn't true.
Warm
Regards,
Dr. Jill
E-Mail:
drjjoyce@att.net
http://www.thememorydoc.com
561-200-9380
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Volume
I:26
March 15, 2005
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St. Patty's Joke & Memory Quote
Q:
Why did God invent alcohol?
A:
To keep the Irish from taking over the world.
--Anonymous Old Irish Joke
* Reagan Optimism
There's
a story about two little boys who wake up
early
one Christmas morning and sneak downstairs to
check
out the presents.
They get a surprise when they come around the corner
and
see that someone has dumped a load of manure over
the
tree and all the presents.
The
older boy is very upset and shouts, "This is awful,
who
would do such a thing, it's terrible, it stinks"
and
on and on he whines doing nothing about it.
The
younger brother goes to the shed in the back yard
and
gets a shovel. He comes into the house and starts
digging
in the mess saying,
"With all
this manure in here, there's gotta be a pony in
here
somewhere!"
--A Ronald Reagan Favorite
. . . Many conditions that result in severe memory
loss
or dementia--such as vitamin deficiency, thyroid
disease,
certain infections, drug reactions, circulatory
disease,
brain tumors, small brain infarcts, head injuries,
and
depression--are arrestable, reversible, or even pre-
ventable
. . . "
--Crook and Adderly
From "The Memory Cure"
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Why Alzheimer's Is Not Just Genetic
Before
talking about President Reagan's case, to make my point,
I'd
like to review the many leaks in the theory that
Alzheimer's
is just a genetic problem you can't do anything
about.
In
fact, believing Alzheimer's is inevitable is as bad as
letting
yourself get fat so you can have liposuction treat-
ments.
Instead,
perhaps you might want to review some researched
facts
. . .
For
example, did you know that those who avoid head-injuries
or
minor strokes, also avoid Alzheimer's?
David
Snowdon's research shows that even persons with the
genes
for Alzheimer's do not acquire the symptoms if
mini-strokes
do not occur first.
Researchers
like Ann Wigmore found that green vegetable
products
like wheat grass proved helpful to dementias
as
early as the 1940's. Many other doctors like Robert
Young
M.D. and Gary Null Ph.D. agree.
Eat
green veggies. They decrease acid, increase alkalinity,
and
get oxygen to the blood.
Many
report that simply getting proper Omega 3 daily
is
an absolute must. Since the body cannot produce Omegas,
this
must be achieved through outside sources like eggs,
fish
and vitamins. By the way, children need Omegas as much
as
adults do.
Anti-oxidants,
high in berries, are also very important to
protect
us from free radical damage.
Then
there is the huge problem we all share of not drinking
enough
water.
Many
neurologists increase hydration before deciding on any
other
course of action when Alzheimer's or other dementia
symptoms
first appear.
And
after autopsies, the shrunken brains of Alzheimer's
patients
look very much like what they needed was more water!
Look
at your plants. You know when they're dry because they
look
it.
Plus,
the lack of vitamin absorption increases as we age
and
contributes to Alzheimer's development. Use of liquid
nutrition,
sublingual vitamin tabs, and vitamin sprays are
now
popular for this reason. I even sell liquid nutrients.
Many
people still believe they can get all their nutrition
from
food.
However,
what they don't realize is that since the environment
today
is so highly toxic, there are fewer nutrients in the
ground
than ever before. Our food supply is becoming more
and
more vitamin deficient and toxic.
Even
our government has informed us that supplemental
nutrition
is required for prevention of disease in the
world
we live in today, while at the same time they want
to
regulate our consumption. Sigh . . .
Then
toxins like--alcohol, drugs, legal drugs and anaesthesias
rob
us of our vitamins. Even worse, incorrect mixtures of
medications,
like heart drugs and psychiatric meds often
cause
memory loss problems.
And,
of course, stress hurts memory deeply and causes people
to
be unable to process information. Anxiety and depression,
for
example, send a hormone to the brain called "cortisol,"
which
then attacks the memory center.
That's
why exercise is so helpful to memory, because it
reduces
stress and cortisol. Plus exercise also fills the
blood
with needed oxygen.
ADD,
ADHD, lack of thyroid, estrogen, or testosterone and
other
hormone problems, plus other brain illnesses and
mental
disorders, all contribute to memory loss and can
contribute
to Alzheimer's.
Not
surprisingly, those who engage in fewer educational
pursuits
have weaker memory skills and a greater risk of
dementia
and Alzheimer's.
At
first, I disagreed with this point, lest we forget all
the
educated people--like President Ronald Reagan--who have
succumbed
to Alzheimer's.
However,
there is more than one way to develop Alzheimer's.
So
now, let's look at what we know of Ronald Reagan's case.
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Ronald Reagan, Blood Sugar, and St. Patty's Week!
Ronald
Reagan was from an Irish family with an alcoholic
father
and a loving mother.
Alcoholism's
presence, in and of itself, affects dietary
habits.
To start, alcohol contributes to depression and the
depletion
of B vitamins. Both are very harmful to the memory.
When
the father of the family is alcoholic, as was the case
in
Reagan's family, it is typical that the children are the
recipients
of a lesser diet. Why?
The
family's budget for food is usually spent on alcohol and
the
concern about a good diet is reduced with the lack of
sobriety.
Thus, there is less attention to proper nutrition--
though
I'm sure President Reagan's mother did her best.
Children's
eating habits are determined by the parents. When
the
importance of procurring healthy food for children is
not
understood or cannot be the focus due to a distraction
like
alcoholism, children are reduced to searching for sugars
and
easily accessed refined carbohydrates.
These
offer empty calories without vitamins for the growing
brains.
Such habits form early and are not easily broken.
Thus,
Ronald Reagan's love of jelly beans started long before
he
was President, but seemed harmless enough, and probably
helped
him feel normal until his aging process kicked in.
Other
young people might not have fared as well as he did in
a
similar environment. He had a very positive bent encouraged
by
his mother and often told the old story above about how he
kept
searching in that manure because he was sure there had to
be
a pony in there somewhere!
You
see--since low blood sugar can make us feel unable to
think
clearly, most people are confused by this problem.
They
believe they can aid their blood sugar by adding sweets or
refined
carbs instead of fruits or veggies to clear up the
foggy
moments of the day.
I'm
sure Ronald Reagan must have felt this way throughout his
life.
Yet, this type of thinking is unfortunate.
High
sugar foods cause us to produce insulin and send us
running
for more sugar. At their worst, they lead to
abnormalities
like Alzheimer's, weight gain, diabetes,
bi-polar
d/o, irritability, etc. At best, they get us through
the
moment.
Instead,
maintain a healthy blood sugar level by eating a
healthy
diet. Then blood sugar will stay normal and balanced
throughout
your day. As a general rule, avoid skipping meals
so
your blood sugar will remain steady and even-keeled.
Healthy
blood sugar comes from balanced proteins, lots of green
vegetables,
low sugar fruits, and healthy whole grains eaten at
about
the same time and in the same amounts each day.
By
the way, all food eventually turns into sugar. That's why
it's
called "blood sugar." The slower this occurs, the better
for
your health and memory.
Unhealthy
blood sugars occur from sweets, alcohol, white
refined
carbohydrates like white sugar, white flour, white
rice,
and even white potatoes--a staple of the Irish people.
Unfortunately,
the availability of the white potato to the
Irish,
which produces fast sugar helps keeps the Irish in the
habit
of eating foods that turn into sugar rapidly.
Though
low blood sugar disappears for the moment, healthy blood
sugar
will not be maintained this way. People in this habit
must
return for more fast sugars like sweets, bread, and alcohol to
normalize
their systems again and again. A persistent cycle
develops.
So
as for St. Patty's week--here's to your healthy memory,
mild
alcohol consumption, and balanced eating habits! Try to
steer
clear of white sugar, white flour, white rice and
white
potatoes. Look for carbs that are called "whole grains."
Dr.
Jill
E-Mail: drjill@thememorydoc.com
http://www.thememorydoc.com or
http://www.dontforgetmemoryloss.com
561-200-9380
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The
Memory Doc by Jill Joyce, PhD
Volume
I:23
February 14, 2005
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Memory Quotes
*
Tina's Story: You Can't Believe Everything You Hear
*
Tina Joins A Support Group
*
When Tina Learns Her Brain is Healing
*
The Diagnosis Dilemma--Being Stuck in a Box
*
Never Give Up!
*
Moral to Tina's Story
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*
Memory Quote
"As
the good book says, good news will stay and
bad
news will refuse to leave."
--Tevya
The Papa; Fiddler on the
Roof
“We
never treated my husband as an invalid,
Fortunately
Franklin never wanted to be treated
like
one."
--Eleanor Roosevelt
"Never,
never, never give up."
--Winston Churchill
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Dear
Friends,
This
past week I've been honored by many people
asking
me to bring my message about memory loss
to seminars for their organizations.
Today
I will present the story of Tina, (fictitious
name)
a former client of mine who suffered memory
loss.
Hers
is a fascinating, though not unusual story and
happens
to people with all kinds of memory losses.
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Tina’s Story—-You Can’t Believe Everything You Hear
This
story reveals: People begin to believe in and hold
on
to memory disorders even when there is huge evidence
they
are improving.
Unfortunately,
this often continues until a professional
exonerates
them.
Tina
came to a support group describing her irreparable
brain
damage due to a head injury. She had been an
elementary
music teacher, proud of her career, who had
recently
remarried after being divorced for many years.
An
unfortunate accident occurred at her public school
work
place and over time she began to deteriorate and
eventually
became unable to function.
The
accident involved a heavy piece of equipment that
fell
and hit her on the head. During a four-year period,
she
began to have memory loss and other symptoms.
She
was forgetful and easily confused, plus her
vocabulary
and ability to focus and think began to
shrink.
She
became unable to work, drive, organize, or do
normal
every day errands.
Many
doctors tried to be helpful. Then one doctor
told
her the situation was hopeless, and she would
continually
decline for the rest of her life and
end
up in a nursing home.
This
was the last thing she needed to hear.
Believing
that one doctor, she went to bed and told her
new
husband to leave her. (When we feel ill, it's so easy
to
believe the worst.)
After
a year of that behavior, he did leave, encouraged
to
do so by two psychiatrists.
Over
the next six years, Tina says, all she did was sleep
her
life away.
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Tina Joins A Support Group
Then
she appeared at my support group one day and reported
in
a surprisingly animated and charming fashion how her
life
was ruined, and she was going to decline continually,
growing
progressively worse until her death.
This
was what she firmly believed. She and others at the
group
wondered if she should have surgery for her injury.
I
asked her if she was driving, and she reported that she
had
driven herself to our meeting place that day. Very
quickly,
it became obvious to me that she had either
received
bad information, or that over the years, it was
unknown
to her that she had very much improved.
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Tina Learns Her Brain is Healing
Only
after I pointed out to her that she was healing and
not
degenerating, did Tina's life begin to make a complete
turn
around.
You
see, until another professional convinced her that
she
was getting better, she treated herself according
to
the hopeless diagnosis: As a degenerating brain
injured
woman with memory loss waiting to get
progressively
worse and worse until her death.
At
first, she simply could not believe me when I told
her
she was getting better and went running back to
see
her neurologist.
Her
neurologist agreed that she was indeed doing fine.
Tina
was dumbfounded.
Of
course, this was exciting that she improved over the
six
years, but it was also sad that she sent her husband
away
and was alone and he was with another woman.
Then,
with a great deal of encouragement and therapy,
she
finally began teaching music again.
Believe
me, it took enormous courage for her to begin
her
previous work again. Her self-esteem was severely
eroded.
My main work with her was to restore her
confidence,
not her memory.
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The Diagnosis Dilemma--Being Stuck in a Box!
Sadly,
this type of story is not uncommon to therapists.
People
are told they will or will not get better for
many
reasons including:
Liability
issues, poor insurance coverage, lack of
certainty
or expectation for healing on the part of
the
doctor, poor communications with the doctor, or
they
simply avoid the ongoing doctor appointments all
together
out of fear.
Others
are getting better just as Tina did, but still
believe
they are sick. Thus, they act accordingly,
because
they are holding onto their hopeless diagnosis
and
a poor prognosis of what will happen in the future.
It's
always wonderful when one of them begins to realize
the
truth of their improvements, the fragility of a
permanent
diagnosis, and moves on to a bright new path
of
life again like Tina finally did.
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Never Give Up!
Actually,
this whole problem could be solved if our society
would
stop believing that the brain does not heal!
If
you leave the doctor with a broken arm, you still expect
it
to improve even if the doctor can not tell you exactly
how
long it will take to be perfect.
Granted,
all disorders are not the same, but as a culture,
we
simply refuse to believe the brain has the healing
abilities
of the rest of the body. And we are wrong!
We
give up on the brain first, prompting it to shut down.
It
responds accordingly as does our behavior.
Giving
up is the last thing one should do, and then, only
after
degenerative illness has one ready for hospice!
Recognition
of improvement and healing opportunities do
not
arrive in the vacuum of idleness.
Thus
the quotes above by Tevya, Eleanor Roosevelt, and
Churchill.
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The Moral to Tina's Story: Encourage those who claim
they
have memory weaknesses and illnesses to believe in
themselves
again!! And remember, brain cells heal!
By
noticing a person's remaining strengths you will help
them
build up from there. If they are to succeed, that
is
where they must begin.
Check
my research sources (Claire; Marks; Rossi; Sachs;
Snowdon)!
Also, my book offers many testimonies of brain
healings
in Chapter 6.
Dr.
Jill
E-Mail: drjjoyce@att.net
http://www.thememorydoc.com
561-200-9380
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